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Why “I’ll Prove Your Wrong” Doesn’t Work

We’ve all seen the memes ~ “My greatest motivation is people who don’t believe in me”

Is it really though? 

I let myself get motivated by the desire to prove others wrong for over a decade and guess what? It didn’t work. When you try to achieve greatness from a place of negativity it does three things. 

First, the negativity follows you around because you always get more of what you focus on. By telling myself that I would “show them” I subconsciously attracted people to me that also didn’t believe in me. Every client call was tainted with negative energy. I was trying to prove my worth to complete strangers and I’m quite certain they felt it.

Second, it makes you feel like your head is on a chopping block. Trying to prove others wrong comes with a sense of panic like what does it say about you if you prove them right? What if you can’t do what you said you were going to do? It’s a sense of constant pressure and when you let the pressure build…well, you know what happens.

Third, being motivated by a desire to prove others wrong hinders your ability to pivot. When you feel like you’re under a microscope because the people you’re trying to prove wrong are watching your every move (or so it feels), then you lose the ability to pivot. Pivoting means that you’ve failed and we can’t have that, so we just stay the course no matter how much it isn’t working because anything else is admitting defeat. 

The greatest thing I’ve done for my business is pivot when I needed to and course correct while I go. Without that ability I was stuck on a path of failure I refused to get off of all to prove to a small handful of people that they were wrong about me. Here’s the thing, you shouldn’t have to validate your dreams and goals to anyone. 

Why do we take it upon ourselves to show people in our lives that we can do something? Shouldn’t the people in our lives cheer us on? Shouldn’t they WANT us to succeed? 

Once I changed my perspective on my motivation I was able to shift it entirely and begin being motivated by something bigger than me that I could work towards instead of something awful that I was attempting to run from. 

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Meggan Larson

Meggan Larson

Award Winning & Amazon Best Selling Author, Course Creator, Adoptee, founder of Fly With Me Academy & co-founder of Starfish Stories Publishing Company.

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I published my first book in 2020 and went on to publish several more books within a year. I write fiction and non fiction and love to help others write and publish books as well.

I was adopted as a baby, have gone through stage four metastatic cancer, and nearly lost my life during my last pregnancy due to placenta percreta. I believe that we go through difficult circumstances so that we can reach back into the fire with buckets of water to help others.

My life ambitions include expanding my non profit organization to provide financial relief to families going through an unexpected medical crisis, building safe haven homes for women and their children escaping domestic violence situations, and learning how to homestead in order to become more self sufficient.



I dropped out of high school in the 11th grade, switched to an alternate school and was valedictorian the following year.


I met my husband on a sort of blind date when I was 15 and have been in love with him ever since (married for nearly 15 years now!).


I’ve always homeschooled my three amazing kids because I genuinely love getting to hang out with them every day.