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Confessions Of A Former People Pleaser

I was a people pleaser and I didn’t even know it. I said yes to everything, even when I wanted to say no. I let people push me into things I wasn’t comfortable with because I didn’t want them to feel uncomfortable by me saying no. I lacked even the slightest boundary and I wasn’t even aware of it. I thought it was normal to attract people that wanted to control me. I thought it was normal to feel like I could never say no to anything without the person hating me. I thought it was normal to hate letting people down to the degree that I did. And I thought it was normal not to know who I really was. I didn’t realize that all of these are signs of people pleasing and a lack of boundaries. 

When someone has experienced trauma (even as far back as in the womb), they usually go one of two ways. The first is a people-pleasing complete lack of boundaries type person, and the second is someone who sets boundaries so high that no one can get past them. Sometimes, they do both. 

In the past I would literally run myself ragged to please others. My last job nearly sent me into a nervous breakdown simply because I didn’t know how to say no. I was such a people pleaser that I didn’t even see a problem with that! Umm hello? That’s unhealthy. 

If you’re anything like me then you might not realize that you don’t have boundaries (seriously, I didn’t know). Here are some warning signs:

  • You worry people won’t like you if you have boundaries.
  • You find decision making a real challenge.
  • You despise letting other people down.
  • You feel anxious and guilty if others aren’t happy with you.
  • You have no time to do things for yourself because you’re too busy helping others.
  • You wonder who you really are because you base your opinion of yourself on what other people think.
  • You overshare private details of your life with people you just met leaving you open to hurt & manipulation.


I was all of these and more. Reading through that list was a real wake up call for me. If you resonate with anything I’ve said here then it’s time for you to reclaim your power and stop people pleasing to the point of your own detriment.

Jump into my Solopreneur Sisterhood to learn the skills you need to stop. 

Meggan Larson

Meggan Larson

Award Winning & Amazon Best Selling Author, Course Creator, Adoptee, founder of Fly With Me Academy & co-founder of Starfish Stories Publishing Company.

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I published my first book in 2020 and went on to publish several more books within a year. I write fiction and non fiction and love to help others write and publish books as well.

I was adopted as a baby, have gone through stage four metastatic cancer, and nearly lost my life during my last pregnancy due to placenta percreta. I believe that we go through difficult circumstances so that we can reach back into the fire with buckets of water to help others.

My life ambitions include expanding my non profit organization to provide financial relief to families going through an unexpected medical crisis, building safe haven homes for women and their children escaping domestic violence situations, and learning how to homestead in order to become more self sufficient.



I dropped out of high school in the 11th grade, switched to an alternate school and was valedictorian the following year.


I met my husband on a sort of blind date when I was 15 and have been in love with him ever since (married for nearly 15 years now!).


I’ve always homeschooled my three amazing kids because I genuinely love getting to hang out with them every day.